I hear people referring to âprofessionalismâ â âhe is being unprofessionalâ, or âshe always acts professionallyâ â and yet I donât think we really know what weâre talking about when we use that term. I say âweâ because Iâm guilty of this too. Cat knows that Iâve used âyouâre being unprofessionalâ as shorthand for âyou did something I didnât likeâ, but I am trying to do better.
The idea of âprofessionalismâ is used in the workplace1 to keep us in line, to make sure we donât color outside the lines. But when we say âact professionallyâ, we are seldom pointing at anything that has to do with the actual way that person performs their job â their profession. For example, when we say about a software engineer that she is not âbeing professionalâ, we never mean by that that her code lacks documentation or is unmaintainable or that she doesnât collaborate well with others. Typically we use the term to mean that the subject was somehow irresponsible or unreliable, perhaps too emotional or âirrationalâ2. We use it as a shorthand to mean ânot as you should beâ, and are too lazy to define exactly what are we trying to say, what is it that we want to change.
âProfessionalâ means different things in different environments, and we never bother to clarify in which ways is it different here vs there, we just expect employees to âpick up on itâ. Working at Google, at first I marveled at the wonderful freedom from the conventional trappings of professionalism: you donât need to wear business clothes, nobody cares about your appearance and you are free to do good work and be judged solely on its merits. But gradually I came to realize that it wasnât quite true â itâs not that at Google there isnât a norm of âprofessionalismâ that you have to conform to, itâs just that it is a different uniform (and there are different uniforms for employees in different functions â whatâs ok in sales is not ok in engineering, and vice versa). So maybe there is a little bit more leeway in what is acceptably âprofessionalâ at Google, but there are still boundaries. You are welcome to be weird, but only as long as you are the right kind of weird â you definitely donât want to be an engineer wearing a blazer to work, or appearing too feminine, or admitting that you vote Republican.
One piece of this idea of âprofessionalâ is this image of the very reasonable, perfectly logical person. There is an ideal here of the perfectly rational white man. It means that excessive emotion is not welcome, except in the places where it is required: you should be passionate about the mission, and the company itself, of course. But be sure to not appear too frustrated or upset, or youâll be deemed childish or lacking grit.
In the classic management book Peopleware, DeMarco and Lister tell the story of a company where upper management sent a memo to employees forbidding the popping of corn in the breakroom microwave. âPopcorn is not professionalâ, the memo said. DeMarco and Lister go on to posit that âunprofessionalâ is a term used by weak managers to characterize âsurprising and threateningâ behavior, anything that is âdifferent from averageâ. It seems to me there is something here about control from management, about not wanting to consider whatever is happening on its own merits (or lack thereof). The shorthand of the conventional or ordinary â âaverageâ â as a substitute for thinking.
Tema Okunâs paper White Supremacy Culture, in which she describes common characteristics of white supremacy that show up in organizations, touches on several aspects that are closely related to this idea of âprofessionalismâ. Okun says, âThe characteristics [âŠ] are damaging because they are used as norms and standards without being proactively named or chosen by the group. â The sections on âObjectivityâ, âOnly One Right Wayâ and âPaternalismâ feel very relevant. The paper is filled with a treasure trove of âantidotesâ to these characteristics. As a taste, here are Okunâs proposed antidotes to the âObjectivityâ pattern:
realize that everybody has a world view and that everybodyâs world view affects the way they understand things; realize this means you too; push yourself to sit with discomfort when people are expressing themselves in ways which are not familiar to you; assume that everybody has a valid point and your job is to understand what that point is; recognize that we can know things emotionally and intuitively in ways that we may not be able to explain ârationally;â understand that often ârationalâ thinking is actually an emotional response couched in logic
So next time you want to use the word âprofessionalâ, stop and ask yourself what is it that you really mean. Find a more accurate word for what you want to convey. Then, if this is still something you want to express, go ahead and use that more precise, less wishy-washy word.
This post appeared originally on https://anaulin.org/blog/.
- The contemporary, American workplace, that is. YMMV. [return]
- I canât help but put quotes around âirrationalâ, because I donât think we really know what we mean by that word, either. But thatâs a whole other conversation. [return]

Top comments (5)
This is a really interesting post. Before I was a software developer, I worked as a licensed civil engineer. When I think about what is "professional", my former work informs my thoughts.
Certain types of work involve public trust and accountability. As a Civil Engineer, if I was acting "professionally" I was contributing to that trust. If I was acting "unprofessionally" I was deteriorating that trust. Ideally this would mean--if I tell the truth and deliver a safe design that is professional, if I lie to the client, take bribes, deliver a sloppy design that is unprofessional.
But people use shortcuts to make judgements, so the evaluation often comes down to "do you conform to my idea of an engineer?" This others people unnecessarily and is counterproductive.
So when I think "professional" now, I ask myself if the person is acting like their work matters, if they would be proud to put their name on their work, and if what they are doing is ethically sound. But you are right, that is not necessarily what others will hear if I use that word.
I really like using the lens of being reliable and trustworthy. I think you're right that this is what is really at the core of the idea of being "professional".
This process can take 5-10 years or so.
Sorry for mistakes, if any.
For me, professionalism has a very simple definition. It means to not get caught up in the turmoil of the current situation (server on fire, customer yelling at me, being passed over for promotion, etc.), but instead to stay focused doing the job.
In the above examples with the server on fire, it would be unprofessional for me to say nothing/go home, leaving someone else to deal with it. The professional thing to do would be to hit the fire alarm and follow fire safety procedures. If a customer was yelling at me, the obvious unprofessional response is to yell back, to join in the tantrum. A professional might ignore the yelling and focus on solving their problem. Or if not possible, politely tell them to call back later. In being passed over, the unprofessional might retaliate in various ways. But the professional keeps doing their job well. (It is not unprofessional to discretely look for another job if this is a pattern. It is professional to give adequate notice rather than walk out.)
Professionalism does not mean to sacrifice all other aspects of life for your job, or to suppress all your emotions, or that you can't have friends at work, or that you should treat your co-workers coldly. It simply means that for the time you are at work the priority should be performing the profession. In our business, that can often mean a lot of collaboration and learning unfamiliar perspectives to solve a problem. Professionalism is not about me.
Now professionalism as I have defined here is not easy. I have missed the mark many times, especially when I first entered the work force. It takes practice.
That was going to be my definition. Literally, if you get paid to do something, that makes you "professional".